7 Reasons Men Get Ensnared by Delilah
Y’all have heard me speak a lot about Marine witchcraft used to snare men, trap them, and keep them from their God-ordained wives. However, in this post, I would like to discuss some potential reasons these men were able to be snared.
And before we proceed, yes, I know women can be guilty of the things we will discuss in this post. But this post is about MEN.
First and foremost, we must understand that a curse cannot operate against you if it has no legal right to. So either (1) you are in passive agreement due to a lack of knowledge, (2) something about you is in agreement with the spirit in operation, or (3) your actions have given it legal ground.
“Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight.” — Proverbs 26:2 NKJV
“for the ruler of this world is coming, and he has nothing in Me.” — John 14:30 NKJV
1. LACK OF DISCERNMENT.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’” — I Samuel 16:7 NKJV
“But Jesus, knowing their thoughts, said, “Why do you think evil in your hearts?” — Matthew 9:4 NKJV
This is the number one reason men fall prey to the wrong woman—they lack discernment, either in general, in a particular area of their life, or in a particular situation. A man may be extremely gifted in discernment in ministry, with the business he tells his family, and with his selection of friends, yet he may have poor judgment with women.
And many men may lack judgment in particular when women come in his preferred package or personality. But here’s the problem with that: if you know and articulate your type, the enemy also knows this and can send women who are your type or appear to be your type with an assignment to destroy you. Both genders are visual, yet men collectively tend to place more value on appearances than women collectively do. This sets them up to do what the prophet Samuel was doing to Jesse’s sons: judging based on their outward appearance. God had to correct the prophet, and similarly, many men need to be corrected by the Lord as well as their brothers, and submit their tastes and preferences to the Lord.
At the end of the day, especially in 2022, ESPECIALLY with witchcraft on the rise the way it is, we all need the gift of discernment IN EVERY AREA OF OUR LIVES more than ever.
Finally, I will say this about this point: if you think that your title, your office, or your anointing prevents you from ever being deceived in general or about a potential partner, you’re already deceived. (See #3.)
2. IGNORANCE.
“lest Satan should take advantage of us; for we are not ignorant of his devices.” — II Corinthians 2:11 NKJV
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being priest for Me; Because you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.” — Hosea 4:6 NKJV
“but while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went his way.” — Matthew 13:25 NKJV
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” — James 1:5 NKJV
This is similar to #1, yet not exactly the same. God does not desire for ANY of His children to be ignorant. He does not desire for us to be ignorant of the workings and operations of the realm of the spirit—good and bad. Yet unfortunately, much of the Church is ignorant of precisely this. And they have the nerve to circulate false doctrines stating that if you teach on warfare or think about warfare, that you are “glorifying the devil.” A LIE. They have the nerve to think they don’t have to fight the enemy or don’t have to concern themselves with the enemy because “the devil’s already defeated.” *SMH*
Similarly, many people are ignorant of the bondages they’ve created through their own actions or the generational curses they inherited through their bloodlines. These things can and do factor MAJORLY into one’s ability to marry according to the will of God for their life. And yes, some have more or less leash (latitude) to select their spouse and it is typically due to the nature of the call of God on their lives. But if you are ignorant to the presence of demonic marital patterns or demonic sexual patterns or demonic marital preventatives in your bloodline, then you could be running headlong toward a snare and not even know it.
The enemy LOVES darkness (ignorance, because the entrance of the Word bringeth light!) because most will not detect the presence of an intruder if they can’t be seen or if they are too overcome with sleep to notice. Don’t allow the enemy to sow an evil harvest or to compromise your currently scheduled harvest because you didn’t discern his movements.
3. PRIDE & ARROGANCE.
“Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.” — Proverbs 16:18 NKJV
“When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.” — Proverbs 11:2 NKJV
“By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom.” — Proverbs 13:10 NKJV
“But he rejected the advice which the elders had given him, and consulted the young men who had grown up with him, who stood before him.” — II Chronicles 10:8 NKJV
This is a big one and it comes in many forms. Pride may be loud and ostentatious or it may be falsely humble and quiet. It may “talk…exceeding proud(ly)” (1 Sam. 2:3 KJV) or it may be quietly holding the clothes of those who stone the righteous (Acts 7:58). Whatever the form, pride causes the one in error to believe they are right; to believe they are discerning; to believe they are more than they are.
Pride is a deceiver: it tricks you and then trips you for all to see.
Pride caused Samson to go after strange women despite the fact that they were from the camp of his enemy. His pride was in his supernatural strength.
Pride caused Uzziah to be “lifted up” in his heart and to take on the role of a priest which he was not qualified for. His pride was in his military strength.
Pride caused David to think he could take his friend and subordinate’s wife, have the husband killed, and think God didn’t see it. His pride was in his history of backing from God.
Pride caused Solomon to marry HUNDREDS of strange women despite the restrictions of the law against polygamy and idolatry, and allowed his heart to be turned from his Maker. His pride was in his wisdom.
Pride caused Moses to strike to claim that HE brought the water from the rock, and not God. His pride was in his history of divine exploits.
And y’all, if the meekest man IN THE WORLD can “get got” by pride, then who do you think you are?
Pride is sneaky and DANGEROUS. It’s always justified, and to the undiscerning, it appears to be confidence.
And as it pertains to this subject matter, these women are sent to HUMILIATE and DESTROY the men of God after they’ve used you to their end.
4. REJECTION.
I don’t have a specific Bible verse for this item, and yet I know its essence is displayed in Scripture. Many scholars believe that King David was born out of wedlock. This would account for his father, Jesse, refusing to call him before the prophet when Samuel specifically asked to view all of his sons. Seven brothers passed before Samuel, and none of them were chosen by God to be king. It just so happened that the son the family rejected was the son God had selected.
Thus Jesse made seven of his sons pass before Samuel. And Samuel said to Jesse, “The Lord has not chosen these.” And Samuel said to Jesse, “Are all the young men here?” Then he said, “There remains yet the youngest, and there he is, keeping the sheep.”
And Samuel said to Jesse, “Send and bring him. For we will not sit down till he comes here.” So he sent and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, with bright eyes, and good-looking. And the Lord said, “Arise, anoint him; for this is the one!” Then Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the midst of his brothers; and the Spirit of the Lord came upon David from that day forward. So Samuel arose and went to Ramah. — I Samuel 16:10-13
David may have been small in stature, yet he was an attractive young man. So he could not have been “forgotten” and rejected because of his looks. In fact, David wasn’t just good looking himself, but he went on to sire many highly attractive children. Tamar and Absalom in particular. We can also strongly infer that Solomon was an attractive man also due to the fact that his mother’s beauty is what attracted David in the first place. But David, like his son Solomon after him, had a problem with women. And yet what many don’t realise is that what is often called pride (e.g. “He thinks he can get any woman he wants!”) is very often rooted in a lack of affirmation which typically translates to some sort of abandonment or rejection. They try to fill the void caused by rejection with sex. It never works, yet they try it anyway.
And if the women are particularly attractive as was the case with David and Solomon, these men can desire the status that comes with having such “trophies” on their arm. Even the least attractive rapper…baller…preacher…can have a string of groupies ready to drop their panties for them.
Maybe like David and Samson, it was their martial/military ability that drew women.
Maybe like David, it was their musical ability or love for God.
Maybe like Solomon, it was his wisdom or his wealth.
Men and women haven’t changed that much over the ages. The same things that attracted women and men to each other then, still attract us to each other now. A void is a void is a void. And if Jesus doesn’t fill that void and heal you of your broken places, you too can wind up in the arms of a woman on assignment to hunt your soul.
5. IMPATIENCE & HASTE.
“But when the inhabitants of Gibeon heard what Joshua had done to Jericho and Ai, they worked craftily, and went and pretended to be ambassadors. And they took old sacks on their donkeys, old wineskins torn and mended, old and patched sandals on their feet, and old garments on themselves; and all the bread of their provision was dry and moldy. And they went to Joshua, to the camp at Gilgal, and said to him and to the men of Israel, “We have come from a far country; now therefore, make a covenant with us.”
Then the men of Israel said to the Hivites, “Perhaps you dwell among us; so how can we make a covenant with you?”
But they said to Joshua, “We are your servants.”
And Joshua said to them, “Who are you, and where do you come from?”
So they said to him: “From a very far country your servants have come, because of the name of the Lord your God; for we have heard of His fame, and all that He did in Egypt, and all that He did to the two kings of the Amorites who were beyond the Jordan—to Sihon king of Heshbon, and Og king of Bashan, who was at Ashtaroth. Therefore our elders and all the inhabitants of our country spoke to us, saying, ‘Take provisions with you for the journey, and go to meet them, and say to them, “We are your servants; now therefore, make a covenant with us.” ’ This bread of ours we took hot for our provision from our houses on the day we departed to come to you. But now look, it is dry and moldy. And these wineskins which we filled were new, and see, they are torn; and these our garments and our sandals have become old because of the very long journey.”
Then the men of Israel took some of their provisions; but they did not ask counsel of the Lord. So Joshua made peace with them, and made a covenant with them to let them live; and the rulers of the congregation swore to them.
And it happened at the end of three days, after they had made a covenant with them, that they heard that they were their neighbors who dwelt near them….
Then Joshua called for them, and he spoke to them, saying, “Why have you deceived us, saying, ‘We are very far from you,’ when you dwell near us? Now therefore, you are cursed, and none of you shall be freed from being slaves—woodcutters and water carriers for the house of my God.’” — Joshua 9:3-16, 22-23 NKJV
“Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it would cost his life.” — Proverbs 7:23 NKJV
“Also it is not good for a soul to be without knowledge, And he sins who hastens with his feet.” — Proverbs 19:2 NKJV”
“But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” — James 1:4 NKJV
Unless Heaven is beckoning you to make haste toward marriage, DO NOT!!!! And even when Heaven is beckoning you to make haste toward marriage, LOOK SHARPLY!!! I can assure you that if Heaven has released their selection to you, that Hell has also released a counterselection to you. And it may even arrive before Heaven’s pick does. It may, for a time, appear BETTER or more acceptable, than Heaven’s choice for you. When you ignore discernment or just flat out don’t discern the pick, then you will almost certainly get got and come close to or even be held captive by a “hasty covenant.”
The Lord was angry with Israel because they “did not ask counsel of the Lord.” They took counsel among themselves. They asked their friends and family members instead of God. They asked their pastor and spiritual parents instead of God. They asked their mentor instead of God. Including your community is fine, yet they should be inquired of AFTER you inquire of the Lord.
It’s like the young prophet who had a word from the Lord, yet allowed the old prophet to lead him astray. The end result? HE DIED.
It’s like the apostles who cast lots to select a replacement for Judas. They prayed, yet relied on the lots, and chose a man who is NEVER MENTIONED AGAIN in Scripture.
Some of you made hasty decisions because you’re lusty. (See #6.)
Some of you made hasty decisions because you don’t want to examine yourselves.
Some of you made hasty decisions because Ahithophel counseled you.
Some of you made hasty decisions because you accepted the controlled narrative of Jezebel and the Sons of Belial.
Some of you made hasty decisions because you were too stuck on a type to recognize the moment of your visitation.
Moving fast isn’t bad if GOD is leading you to do it. Yet if you are moving fast in your own strength, you are headed toward a snare. And may God have mercy on you and help you if that is you. There IS grace for you.
BUT HEAR ME: No one can break you out of the legally binding agreements you have made out of your mouth or before a judge EXCEPT YOU. You are not in Ancient Israel. The Word of the Lord is that God wants to deliver His people from these demonically-wrought relationships and marriages. Yet if you choose to maintain these demonically-arranged agreements, God will respect your decision to stay bound. OR He will deliver you after much longer time and suffering and CONSEQUENCES than were necessary.
OPEN YOUR MOUTH, AND ASK GOD TO DELIVER YOU!!!!
6. LUST.
“For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.” — I John 2:16-17 NKJV
“Do not lust after her beauty in your heart,
Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.
For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.
Can a man take fire to his bosom,
And his clothes not be burned?”
— Proverbs 6:25-27 NKJV
“The righteousness of the upright will deliver them, But the unfaithful will be caught by their lust.” — Proverbs 11:6 NKJV
“Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts.” — Romans 6:12 NKJV
“Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.” — Romans 13:13-14 NKJV
Let me make this simple: If you are getting married because you love them and feel like God is leading you into that marriage, AND as a bonus you’re excited to be sexually intimate with them, then that’s normal. Yet if you are being driven to either marry someone or marry someone quickly just to have sex, YOU’RE IN LUST.
Lust should not be the driving force of marriage. Because you know what? Marriage doesn’t cure lust. You can have chemistry with a lot of people. You can have mind-blowing sex with a lot of people. But you CANNOT fulfill purpose maritally, familially, or ministerially with a lot of people.
I want to be clear: you SHOULD be sexually attracted to the person you’re dating and planning to marry. That’s a given. Yet merely desiring someone is not lust. Having an uncontrollable, undisciplined desire for them is lust.
I also want to expose the fact that it’s the satyromaniacs and nymphomaniacs AS WELL AS the virgins and abstinent who are guilty of marrying for lust. It’s the self-pleasuring AND NON-self-pleasuring saints who are guilty of marrying for lust. It’s the apostolic long skirt-wearing AND bandage dress-wearing saints who are guilty of marrying for lust. It’s the properly suited AND equipment outline-showing saints who are guilty of marrying for lust. Lust is no respecter of persons!!! But I can assure you if you are marrying for lust, you’re already deceived.
CAVEAT: If you have fallen into sexual sin with your future spouse, I do not believe that is an automatic curse on your marriage or automatically the wrong peron. It may just mean you struggled with discipline or sex in general or in a moment. I believe God honours those who really are meant for each other and strive to honour God with their bodies and want to make things right. While I don’t recommend falling back on grace, God does indeed extend grace. This item is really much more about people being driven and blinded by lust to marry in general.
7. DISOBEDIENCE & REBELLION.
“So Samuel said: ‘Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, As in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, And to heed than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, And stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.’” — I Samuel 15:22-23 NKJVa
Whether great or small, all Satan needs is an in; a foothold. So it could be as simple as second-guessing your decision. It could be as simple as slowing the pace God had you moving at. It could be as simple as trying to wait until you have all your proverbial ducks in a row. It could be as simple as listening to the wrong advisors—or no advisors at all!
It could also be running headlong back into the world. Cheating on your partner. Changing up on them. Ghosting them. Running from them when you KNOW God sent you to them. When you KNOW God sent His favour with them. When you KNOW you are at peace with them.
Disobedience is disobedience. And disobedience is ultimately, rebellion. This is sin and sin is all the devil needs to gain legal access to your life and begin to interfere by casting doubt, causing you to second-guess your decisions, giving you demonic counsel, planting demonic projections, and so forth. And the next thing you know, you’re walking away from the one you prayed for, and running toward the one hell prepared for you. And the next thing you know, you’re not even serving the Lord anymore. And the next thing you know, you’re experiencing attacks you’ve never experienced before.
Choosing who to marry is THE MOST IMPORTANT DECISION a person could ever make after choosing to serve the Lord. It will make you or break you. Elevate you or bury you. Promote you or imprison you. It’s the difference between living in peace and favour or torment and frustration.
And when you allow a lack of discernment, ignorance, pride, rejection, impatience, lust, or rebellion to remain unchecked in your life, you set yourself up for attacks you can’t even imagine.
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. — Galatians 5:16-17
Walking and living in the Spirit is your only protection from marrying the wrong person. Choose to submit your WHOLE LIFE—not just parts of it—to the Lord’s ownership. And if you’ve read this or some of my other content and realised that you’re bound and being held captive in a marriage you did not bargain for, then there IS deliverance for you!
I’m going to leave you with the message of a dear friend of mine. Years ago, he lifted up his eyes and found himself smack dab in the middle of a demonic marriage. The Lord showed him a picture of himself trying to hold up a house that was falling down on him. And the Lord said, “You can stay here and let this kill you, or you can allow Me to deliver you.” He chose to allow God to deliver him. You can too!
Be encouraged AND discerning!
